A few years ago, I met someone who candidly shared that he had lost his faith in God after his mother passed away. He described how he had prayed earnestly, pleaded with God, and truly believed she would be healed. But when she died, he could no longer see the purpose in believing in a God who, in his eyes, hadn’t answered.

After our wedding, I moved to Seattle to join my husband, who was already living there.
We had the privilege of getting to know a dear pastor—a kind and humble man we were introduced to through a mutual friend.

He and his wife welcomed us with such grace, and we quickly got to know and love them, their family, and the congregation they faithfully led.
Not long after we joined the church, he was diagnosed with leukemia. In his 60s.

We prayed.
Oh, how we prayed.

Tearful, fervent prayers. Prayers in Jesus’ name.
Prayers from a church that believed God is able to heal any illness.
Prayers from friends who couldn’t imagine this story ending in death.

But a year later—he was gone.

Those are the prayers that sit heavy in the soul.
The ones whispered through tears in the dead of night.
At hospital bedsides. In war zones. Dorm rooms. Decision tables.
The ones we end the “right” way:
“In Jesus’ name, amen.”

And yet—
some of them are met with silence.
Doors stay shut.
Suffering lingers.
The miracle doesn’t come.
A loved one dies.

If you’ve been there too—
you’re not alone. And you’re not doing it wrong.

I’m sharing what I’ve come to understand about what it truly means to pray in Jesus’ name, and why, even then, the answers we receive may not look the way we hoped or imagined.

The Misunderstood Promise

Jesus says in John 14:13–14:

“And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.”

This verse has been quoted in revival meetings, and quiet morning devotions. But it’s often misunderstood.

To ask in Jesus’ name is not just a magic phrase that flips a switch—it means:

• Asking under His authority, like an ambassador.
• Asking in alignment with His will, not just our desires.
• Asking with the goal of glorifying the Father, not gratifying the flesh.

It’s not a blank check. It’s an invitation to pray like Jesus would pray.

And here’s the hard truth:
Even when you do that—sometimes, the answer might still be NO.

Let’s look in the Bible, when the faithful heard “NO”

This is not new. Scripture is full of God-loving, Spirit-led people who prayed with pure hearts—and didn’t get what they asked for.

✦ Moses

He led God’s people through the wilderness. He talked with God face to face. And he prayed:

“Let me go over and see the good land…” (Deut 3:25)

God said NO.

Moses didn’t get to enter the Promised Land. His journey ended on a mountain—overlooking it, but not stepping foot.
Faithful—but denied.

✦ David

He fasted, prayed, and wept for his dying son—the child born from his failure, yes, but still his beloved son.

“Who knows? The Lord may be gracious…” (2 Sam 12:22)

The child still died.

David worshipped anyway. Not because he got what he asked for, but because he trusted who God was, even in the heartbreak.

✦ Paul

He begged God three times to remove the “thorn in his flesh”—something so agonizing that scholars still debate what it was.

“Three times I pleaded…” (2 Corinthians 12:8)

God said no.

Instead, He gave something better than healing:

“My grace is sufficient for you.”

✦ Even Jesus

In Gethsemane, our Savior—the very Son of God—cried out:

“Father, if You are willing, take this cup from Me…” (Luke 22:42)

But He added,

“Yet not My will, but Yours be done.”

And the cup was not taken away.
Jesus drank every bitter drop. For you and I!

And few moments in Scripture illustrate this better than the man with leprosy in Luke 5:12. He approached Jesus with confidence in His power but reverence for His will:

“Lord, if You are willing, You can make me clean.”

He didn’t plead. He didn’t demand. He simply believed—and submitted.

If I’m honest, I probably wouldn’t have done that.
If I were in his place—face to face with the King of Kings—I might’ve listed a hundred things. “Heal me. Fix this. Change that. Do it now.”
But this man said only, “If You are willing.”

That kind of faith doesn’t try to control the outcome.
It trusts the One who holds it.

And Jesus responded not only with compassion but with power:

“I am willing. Be clean.”

This is what praying in Jesus’ name really looks like—a posture of trust over control, surrender over strategy.

What if the “No” is the mercy?

Sometimes we ask for things that would wreck us if God said yes. Other times, we’re asking for something good—but God is doing something greater. Something we won’t understand until we look back from eternity.

What if the “unanswered prayer” was the answer?

What if God’s “no” is not rejection—but redirection?
Not punishment—but preparation? Growing & molding us?

When we don’t understand—He still is good!

This I know too well:

Keep praying, even if the answer doesn’t come

So what do we do?

We pray.
We ask boldly.
We weep honestly.
We submit fully.

And when the heavens seem quiet, we cling to the truth that God is still at work.

He is not a vending machine—He is a Father.
Wise. Just.
And He sees beyond your asking, into your becoming.

He knows what you truly need, even when you don’t.

So keep praying.
Not to bend His will to yours,
but to align your heart with His.

Not to get everything you desire,
but to grow into who He created you to be.

This is the power of prayer in Jesus’ name.
Not a guarantee of outcomes —but an invitation to intimacy, to trust, to transformation.